前不久，我的闺蜜在微信上分享了一个有趣的经历。她老公曾送给她一个精美的大盒子，但当她拆开发现里面是一件情趣内衣时，她立即气愤地回怼：“你把我当成那些不三不四的女人吗？”她的老公被迫离去，我则调侃道：“他想和你玩，你不同意；但如果是和别的女人，他就高兴了。”闺蜜淡定地回答说，“当然不是，我对这些东西挺感兴趣，但总觉得有点低俗……关键是他总喜欢一出既刻意而又直接，这让我怀疑他到底是爱我还是只想和我。”
似乎无论是在哪个时代、哪个国家，女性在性话题上的被动程度都比男性要高。这种现象受到了历史文化的影响，不仅如此，在一些女性成长于重男轻女家庭或古板父母家庭中，更容易形成对性的回避与压抑。这些因素共同作用，使得许多女性无法释放本真魅力。
事实上，避免谈论这些问题更让人担忧，因为潜意识中的影响可能会导致更多问题。《红楼梦》中宝玉的话“水做骨肉”强调了女性柔弱的一面，而张爱玲提醒我们，一位太过端正、稳重的女子往往难以令人喜爱。
因此，我们需要鼓励 females to embrace their natural charm and sensuality, rather than suppressing them. A healthy dose of "pollution" in our relationships can be refreshing and exciting, as long as it is done with mutual respect and consent. After all, a woman who knows how to have fun and enjoy the game is far more attractive than one who is rigid and uptight.
Let's not forget that men are not immune to this either. They too need to learn how to be playful and adventurous in their relationships without crossing any boundaries. A little bit of "pollution" can go a long way in keeping things fresh and exciting.
So let us embrace our inner vixen, shall we? Let us be bold, daring, and unafraid to take risks in love. For it is only when we are true to ourselves that we become truly irresistible.